Friday, June 03, 2011


Forty-two years, Zeus, forty-two years. Ok, there was that year we didn't tell your Mom that we were living together but still forty-two, forty-three, I mean who is really counting?

I AM. Any couple that has made it past the dreaded 7th year knows how hard it is to make a marriage work. It takes compromise, respect, listening skills, communication skills, a willingness to overlook some things and go for the throat on the really important issues. It means working as a team, being partners, somebody having your back, thinking about the other person at least some of the time and knowing which buttons to push and when not to push. It means having a sense of humor and remembering that you are in this together.

All of that said, there are just some relationships that don't work. That, for whatever reason can't be fixed. The ending of these relationships can be painful, hurtful, unloving and just a nightmare. Others can part and remain friends.

And, that's probably the bottom line, my partner is my best friend. We have a history together. We can finish each other's sentences, if we wanted to. When I mispronounce words he no longer corrects me and when I make up words he understands what I am trying to say.

He knows when to push and when to pull back. After all this time we seem to have worked out the zen of marriage or at least put to good use the message from The Karate Kid (the original).

I'm not going to get 42 more years with this man. I know that. But, I plan on enjoying every years left we do have together.

He's a keeper. Happy 42nd Anniversary, Zeus.



  1. 42 years... WOW!
    A big Happy Anniversary to you both!
    *throwing confetti everywhere*

    You summed up how to make a marriage work perfectly and oh yes it is work some times, but the good spots...that makes the work worth it :)

  2. What a great day to celebrate! 42 years is fantastic. Happy Anniversary to you guys!
    We are at year 30. I must tell hubby that he no longer needs to correct me ;) or at least start practicing.

  3. Congratulations to you both. What a wonderful blog post to read!!

  4. Congrabulations on 42 years!

  5. Happy Happy Anniversary to you both. The world is a better place because of you both! God Bless You!!! Peace, Mary Helen Fernandez Stewart

  6. Happy anniversary to you both Bea :-) You are so right about what makes a marriage work. I have had 5 wonderful years with my DH for all the reasons you give. We don't have time for 42 years either but we will continue to work together. I hope you and Zeus have many more happy years together. Congratulations! x

  7. Congrats to both of you--for about 30 years I have admired your marriage and my respect and love for both of you has grown exponentially. Having made 12 years, I know how hard it is to keep a marriage much less like the person as the years progress. You two are my only friends who have accomplished such a fete!

    Cheers and many, many more.