My adult daughter, that lives with us and her one year old, has a quirk. Ok, she may have a lot of them, I do too but this one bumps into me. She refuses to eat anything, boxed, canned or refrigerated that is past it's SELL BY DATE.
As a result, her groceries tend to sit on my counter top because she refuses to "mix" them up with my, apparently outdated goods.
She has been living with us since last August so this has been an ongoing issue.
My refusal to deal with my own feelings about this issue was like those "light bulb" moments.
I have a lot of "pockets" of un dealt with feelings about things. I suspect I'm not alone. I think it's rather a human condition. Then again that could just be justification and you all are pretty normal out there.
My mother was a child of the depression era. Her growing up, her habits, her beliefs were a product of what she learned in the home. A home that valued anything that was earned by hard work. My great grandmother had a garden and canned as much as she possibly could for the winter ahead. My grandmother did have space for a garden but she bought from the markets and vendors and canned and pickled her goods. My mother had a pantry. She bought in bulk and lord help us if the shelves got low on something. To this day, my mother, in a nursing home has a closet shelf stocked with toilet paper. Very little was ever thrown away. If it has mold you scraped it off, if it had a smell then you put it in the compost pile. You were tough. Food was expensive. No one in the family had ever died from eating those canned tomatoes.
Raising a family, I too had a pantry. I bought in bulk, large things, broke them down into packages or froze them. It's how I made the money stretch. Not unusual I think, for my generation.
So, two thoughts have come out of all of this, while I was standing on my step-ladder, cleaning out my cupboards. One, many children of today tend to waste more than we did.
And two, what the hell are the packaging companies playing at with their fancy date codes?
Do you know how much time I wasted trying to find the SELL BY DATE, read the darn thing?
So is the 03Jun04 the date first and year last or other way around.
Ok, I know it really doesn't matter because 2003 or 2004 should probably be tossed.
My continuing to practice habits from the first part of my marriage, raising children, doesn't work in this half of my life. There is no point to stocking a cupboard with "great deals" because Zeus and I can't eat them fast enough, probably shouldn't be eating some of them anymore and it's just as wasteful as my complaint about this generation of kids.
My daughter came home and opened the cupboards and stood there smiling.
I stood next to her and smiled at my nice clean counter.
Two generations happy at last.
:)Bea Who created on Sunday by creating space.
P.S. The above story illustrates my need to examine a lot of those "pockets" of old habits, beliefs and deep clean them and move on. Life is short. Clinging to outdated behavior is probably just as bad as eating that mix from 2003.