Thursday, December 10, 2009

Thinking about things.

Here it is. You didn't ask for it but I'm telling you it's darn right cold here. -3 degrees
That's a MINUS in front of that 3. Usually, I announce these below zero temperatures in say January or February.
I've lived in Wisconsin for over 40 years and I honestly don't think I ever saw one of these before. Know what it is? A Sundog.
It was like looking at two suns rising. I could pretend I was in a science fiction book.

"A sun dog or sundog (scientific name parhelion, plural parhelia, from "beside the sun"; also called a mock sun) is an atmospheric phenomenon that creates bright spots of light in the sky, often on a luminous ring or halo on either side of the sun.[1]

Sundogs may appear as a colored patch of light to the left or right of the sun, 22° (or more) distant and at the same distance above the horizon as the sun, and in ice halos. They can be seen anywhere in the world during any season. In Europe and North America, they might be seen as often as twice a week but they are not always obvious or bright. They are best seen and at their most conspicuous when the sun is low."

Murphy is off to puppy day care. He so needs to run around with his pals. I am soooooooo boring for a one year old dog. John created a "meditation path" with the snowblower, in the back yard, yesterday. For Murphy it's like running around in a tunnel, the sides are taller than he is.
I like it because I really don't even have to think about where I am going, I just follow the figure eight and do my meditations.

I've added some new blogs to my list. If you are looking for something interesting to read check them out. Some very interesting people out there.

My mother, who still has her mind, complains to me that she is lonely. I normally ignore these comments since she has such a scheduled day and has her cross word puzzle time, her tv shows, her main meal with the other residents and special events that occupy her day. She and my step father spent their 26 some years together. They did everything together. I think the expression is "joined at the hip". They shared a STUDIO apartment for years. That's one room, folks.
I know she misses him.
I tried to get her a computer. They even have one in the facilities library. She refused and still refuses. She says she is too old. I point out that she learned how to drive her motorized wheelchair without killing herself, damaging furniture or doors or taking out any other residents. She claims that she couldn't learn how to use a computer.
I show her how simple it is. She is like a child that puts her hands over her ears while I am talking. I look at my mother and her eyes are shut.
I try to tell her that if she learned how to use the computer an entire world would open up for her. I point out all the obvious advantages. I show her book clubs, groups of people that love Portugal and want to talk about it. My parents lived in Portugal for a number of years. I show her live feeds and tours of great museums. Nothing.

So, two things come to mind while I am writing this. The first is that some people like to be a victim. They like the attention they get. They don't want to take charge of their environment and their lives. They would much prefer to complain about their situation and continue their passive aggressive behavior because they are unhappy.
Second, is that I need to make a journal with entries that will REMIND me how to act when I am much older. Entries that will remind me what NOT to talk about, on the phone, with my children, when they call me. Be open to new experiences and continue to look at life, as an adventure. I'm not going to wear red and purple because I'm not that kind of person but I need to remind myself to get out there.

I love people but I am also happy as a loner. I can play, by myself, in my studio, for a very long time. But, then I will need to go to the mall and sit, at lunch time, in the center of the food court and soak up the energy of the high school students, eating lunch. So, I have to watch myself that I don't retreat backwards and as technology zooms forward that I try to keep up.
And, yet, I don't want to be caught up in it. I want to putter in my garden, keep finding ways to use those plums and CREATE.

:)Bea How are you creating today?

P.S. Any suggestions on a layout format from Blogger that won't cut off my slideshow pictures?
I'm so frustrated that you can't see the entire picture.

17 comments:

  1. Minus 3, oh my! I can count on one hand the number of times I have been in minus temperatures, that I remember anyway.
    Tell your mother that my 87 year old aunt just got a computer this year and is loving it! She never thought she could learn either, but she did, with everyone's help. She loves the email most of all and is in touch with people much more. Is your mom on antidepressants? Sometimes that helps things. Just an idea, as it helped my mother, who was similar to yours sounds like...but only when she got older.
    Sundog?....I never heard of that one and will look it up...it is a beautiful photo.
    I'm with you Bea, I don't want to be like some I know when they get up in years. I will remind you, if you help me remember too! Deal? :) A journal sounds like a good idea, that's one reason I love my collection of quotes, to remind me to work at being happy and being glad I'm alive...every day. But you're right, some like to be a victim. Too bad.
    Well, I guess this post is long enough. Stay warm. Don't let anyone...or the cold temps....get you down!
    Remember rule #9!:)

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  2. Your comment made me laugh, Yvonne. I'll remind you and you can remind me if we can remember. lol
    My mother is stubborn. I can talk until I'm blue in the face, show her and still she will refuse. Her loss.
    Just reminds me NOT to be like that when I get older. :)Bea

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  3. I'd never heard the term 'Sundog', so of course looked it up.Beautiful photo of a really cool phenom!
    It is very cold for here also, at 11 degrees.
    My Mom finally gave in and bought a computer (at 80) when her younger sister (77) told her: "Yeah, you probably couldn't learn it."
    She did.

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  4. I wish somebody could talk my mother into it. Not likely. :)Bea

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  5. -3 degrees?

    Man, I don't even remember the last time it hit single digits here in Connecticut, let alone the negatory system.

    Some people just simply don't want to change. Sad really, but what are you gonna do?

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  6. Glad I gave you a chuckle Bea. :) Well, I'm still doing the holiday hustle around here...but I was trying to imagine 2 old women (not us of course :))trying to keep each other on the straight and narrow telling each other, "Now you don't need to be talking about your (such and such), people don't want to hear about that!"...and..."Now what rule was it I was supposed to remember to tell you not to ever forget?"
    Don't worry about people who can't be happy Bea. You just continue to be happy, it's lighter than you think.

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  7. G, believe it or not -3 is still tolerable around here. It's the double digits below zero that make the nose hairs freeze. Not pleasant. lololsnort ouch :)Bea

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  8. Yvonne, there just seems to be a play that needs to be written here about these old gals. I think they might have some strange adventures and explaining to do, don't you?
    Just thinking about them makes me smile. :)Bea

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  9. This is so neat. "Sundog". I have heard of them but never seen one. I was reminded on someone else's blog that we had a "blue moon" this month, too; two full moons in one month. This is an amazing month, for sure.

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  10. I was so glad I brought my camera upstairs with me, Katie Jane. Usually, I don't even think about taking a picture of anything until my coffee is made! lol :)Bea

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  11. You are so right about the victim mentality. It is corrosive. It isn't like we don't from time to time ask "why me?" but it is about getting older with age and recognizing that thought, honoring the challenge in it, and knowing that you want soemthing better in your head and you go looking for it.

    "The weather outside is frightful ..." your way. We got a dusting of snow here yesterday and the sun burnt it off by noon---though it was around 18 degrees and windy. I miss the look of snow but not the feel or work involved in dealing with it.

    My branch came over for their holiday party and it was a very nice night...not like the caroling parties, but nice and a very big thing for them. The house looked great. It is an amazing space and I had a great spread including mole sauce for the turkey. Pictures later.

    I like to think of you all cozy in the studio and wish I was holed up with a paintbrush in my hand. --Another day....

    Stay warm...

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  12. Hey, Donna, can't wait to see the pictures. I BET it was a big deal for those people. Bet it hadn't happened before. Imagine a government BOSS actually hosting a party for her workers. UNHEARD OF. lol :)Bea

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  13. Now what have you been doing Bea? The link I have for you no longer works so Jim did a search and we found you again. You don't have a list of bloggers on your sidebar either. Just this funny message!!:We're sorry...

    This gadget is configured incorrectly. Webmaster hint: Please ensure that "Friend Connect Settings - Home URL" matches the URL of this site.

    I'm all muddled and confused and I feel so so cold I need to go and get a blanket after seeing your photos!!

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  14. Awww, Gina, I'm still here, just waiting for Blogger to tell all my friends that I now have a domain name instead of my blogger ID.
    :)Bea

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  15. Here I am again, having stopped moaning and now I can enjoy your blog again! Jim has gone off to Ennis to teach the likes of your Mum to use the computer. He loves doing it and they love learning. All very elderly folk too. Tell your Mum! They love to be able to see their houses on 'Google Earth', that often wins them over!!

    The couple down the road (The Uglies) are always moaning and real victims, though they lash out too, but they are so miserable. I'd hate to be like that. What's the point? Some folk just seem to revel in misery.

    I saw that weird Sundog on a blog once before but yours is much more pronounced. Beautiful photo. Great to catch up again.

    BT
    xxxx

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  16. Here I am again, having stopped moaning and now I can enjoy your blog again! Jim has gone off to Ennis to teach the likes of your Mum to use the computer. He loves doing it and they love learning. All very elderly folk too. Tell your Mum! They love to be able to see their houses on 'Google Earth', that often wins them over!!

    The couple down the road (The Uglies) are always moaning and real victims, though they lash out too, but they are so miserable. I'd hate to be like that. What's the point? Some folk just seem to revel in misery.

    I saw that weird Sundog on a blog once before but yours is much more pronounced. Beautiful photo. Great to catch up again.

    BT
    xxxx

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  17. after spending so much time with my MIL I can completely relate to the "eye's closed and hands over the ears" comments.

    It's too late to comment much, but you hit the nail on the head for me with much of what you say here,

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