Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Finessing the Temporal Tap

As usual the photo has absolutely nothing to do with the title of this blog. I have a lot of pictures from my trip to Peru, last year, that I have never posted and I like them. So, there it is, a country road, a tired looking donkey or horse, I can't tell but I like the composition of the photo.

I first posted about Temporal Tapping a week ago, on Wednesday, November 11th. I have been doing it faithfully every day, multiple time during the day.
I am very curious to see if this works. I chose a LONG established habit of mine, nail biting.
Not a pretty or nice habit but one born out of anxiety and stress from my early school years.
I suspect it was a way of dealing with the stress of my parents fighting non stop. My mother tells me I wasn't a thumb sucker but that I bit my nails from a very early age. Of course, she denies that my early home life might have been the problem. I think my parents fought for the drama of it all. Looking back it seems like a theatrical production with screaming, yelling, door slamming, one parent in one part of the house, another in another part and little Bea wondering what the heck she should be doing about this.

I am so glad to hear Dr. Phil, whom I have a love/hate relationship with, tell parents that when they fight in front of their children that they CHANGE the child. No, ifs, about it, the child's personality is changed from that moment on. So don't do it. Easier said than done, I'm afraid.

Anyway, back to the Temporal Tap. I started out with a rather broad positive statement for the right side and found that anxiety is going to find a way around that statement. I needed to finesse the statement. I wasn't biting my nails anymore but I was working on the cuticle.
Disgusting I am sure some of you are thinking. Yeah, well, that's part of being human, we do these disgusting things, drink too much, eat too much, do things to our physical body that aren't healthy for it and much more.

I'm willing to put it out there because I think I have found a method that might help with a number of these "disgusting" issues.

The Temporal Tap does seem to work. I'm looking at the START of new growth of nails. I have a long way to go until I go have my first manicure but it does seem to be working.
I have to admit that every time I find my hand moving toward my mouth my brain sets off a loud speaker system in my head. WHAT ARE YOU DOING? BE AWARE, BE AWARE! WHAT ARE YOU DOING!
Now, that's the first time I ever think I was ever even aware of what I was doing.

So, if you are trying the Temporal Tap and find you are doing MORE of what you don't want to do. It's time to finesse the statements, both negative and positive. Yes, this requires work on your part. If your "habit", like mine, is due to anxiety you need to address that.

So, let's just review some things.

"1. If the wording of your statement that you are tapping into the left side of your head contains a negative word and the statement tapped into the right side contains only positive words,
2. The statements are in harmony with the way you naturally talk and think,
3, as you say the statement, you keep your attention on the words and their meaning, and
4, the statements do not instruct you to do something that contradicts a core value or a more basic need.

Select a target behavior, emotion, or physiological condition that you want to change. Craft a negatively worded statement to tap around your left ear and a positively worded statement to tap around your right ear. .........With deeply entrenched habits, I have seen it take up to thirty days before the results became evident. Even if you are skeptical, judge for yourself based on the results you attain."
Energy Medicine For Women, Donna Eden

Thirty days, huh.........going to keep trying this. When I am successful with this then I'm going to be working on a healthy, correct weight for my age statement.
I, like a number of people, like the idea of a new start with the New Year.
I plan to go into 2010 full tilt. My studio organized, ready to produce. I will have been rested and
rejuvenated by being with my entire family over the Christmas holidays. I need health, energy, stamina for what I want to achieve in 2010. How about you? Got plans? Got dreams?

I saw some road signs, similar to the old Burma Shave ones, along the highway the other day.
The first one said, DREAMS
Second ........... ARE GOALS
Third ............. WITH DEADLINES

I kinda like that. So, if you are tapping, I hope it is working. If you find this amusing I'm glad to put a smile on your face. If you are undecided, give it a try. Need help, I'll see what I can offer, email me.

:)Bea GO DREAM, CREATE and a little tapping wouldn't hurt.

P.S. When I sat down to write my blog I didn't have a clue what I was going to talk about. I took a moment to center myself, LISTEN and then started typing. First draft I didn't have a clue when I last talked about Temporal tapping. I had no idea that it had been a week. There is a reason that I have posted this blog, exactly one week from it's first appearance. I haven't got a clue what that reason is but one of you out there needs to pay attention. Maybe more than one. You need to hear/read what I am saying and just as importantly, you need to communicate to me because there is something that I need to hear from you. I know, you are shaking your head.
If you know me in real life you know what I am saying is true. :)Bea

12 comments:

  1. well...marvelously insightful post!...love the photo, unrelated or not. I too have a terrible time with nails & cuticles...I'm doing better as an adult, but if there's a bit of stray dry skin I can't seem to leave it alone...I had a very happy childhood, but it may be related to food issues...I have heard that the "temporal tap" can help keep one from overeating...we could all benefit from being more aware of what we're doing...well said!

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  2. Dianne, I think many of our unhealthy habits are a way of handling fear, anxiety, shame, etc. All the negative things. It's just our bodies way of coping. It's not wrong, it's probably pretty smart from the mind's point of view.
    From what I have read about Temporal tapping, as you mentioned, it can be applied to a number of unhealthy issues. It's such a simple thing to do. And, frankly, it doesn't feel badly either. Like giving yourself a strange head massage.
    Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. I appreciate the time you took. Happy tapping. :)Bea

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  3. Hi Bea,
    Thanks for your visit today-I love the fact that your bees are going to help in another state-amazing!
    I read with interest your post-I love the photo at the beginning too-the way it looks as if the horse has just turned that corner but still has a way to go.
    I went and read the post from last week-it seems one of those things that is so simple to try then why not-it might just work. I am going to try it in relation to eating habits I want to change-I have been pretty good at sticking to what I tols myself I would do recently but could do a lot better so I am going to try it.
    I loved the bricks on the chair-just wish I had seen who put them there!

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  4. OH! i have this book and i ordered her dvds too
    cause for me it is easier to follow her instuctions for all her healthy moves watching rather than reading
    i would love to go to her retreats...
    one day
    i haven't actually tried the temporal tapping yet
    she scared me with if i do it wrong i will reverse my results
    and since i would want to lose weight and not gain it
    i want to be sure i write my 'tips' correctly...

    good luck girl!
    let me know how you do...

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  5. we might not have the same resource
    but i do know the procedure and i aim to give it a shot soon
    especially since it seems to be helping your nail biting habit

    i read further down
    :)


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  6. Sarah, try the process for one issue at a time. If you want to eat more fresh fruit or vegetables, try doing a negative and positive statement for that. See how that goes. I think a lot of our over eating or unhealthy choices can be dealt with one thing at a time, you know. Good luck. I would love to know how it is working for you. :)Bea

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  7. Mar, she mentions in her book that some people had an INCREASE in their negative behavior at first. They needed to tweak their statement. Just like I was just saying, I do not need to bite my finger nails. It seemed to hit the target until I was messing around with my cuticles. I had to change it to I do not need to put my fingers in my mouth. That one seems to be working, for now. Let's see how much anxiety I have and if it tries to get around that one. lol :)Bea

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  8. Bea, I did a little tapping over the summer and it worked for me. I have to read about it again. Sure could come in handy right about now. Thanks for reminding me about the magic of the tap.
    Linda

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  9. Dear Bea,
    Thank you for your insight into finding an awareness of our need for quietness in our life. I literally tapped my way through a difficult situation and avoided controversy that I had no business entering. I am learning very slowly....much like a three toed sloth at times...but to listen to myself. I felt anothers sorrow today and sent white light of healing to both friends saying goodbye to a dear partner and one who has lost her beloved Mother. I am dreaming in my restful affirmations. Imagine and Live in Peace, Mary Helen Fernandez Stewart

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  10. Awwww Mary Helen, I know you know how much that healing light is needed for all of humanity. Learning, learning, learning, is what we do.....not always an easy process. You just keep doing what you do, you are a beautiful point of light in the world. :)Bea

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  11. Being an ancient Chinese technique it will most likely work for many things as discussed. Do it as a lifestyle and I'm sure it would, as does yoga, tai chi, deep breathing, relaxation, meditation and others. The mind is a powerful thing and you also have to "know" that these will work for you before they WILL work for you.

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  12. Absolutely well said, Yvonne. I approach things as a science experiment, I suggest others do so too. Hold your doubts, do the work, see what the results are.
    One thing that I am noticing is that NOT biting my nails or putting my fingers in my mouth is NOT an act of will power. I don't use will power, I don't have to do anything. My sub conscious is doing all the work for me with positive results. At dinner last night Zeus was mentioning my blog and asking if I was wandering to far afield. I showed him my barely there BUT THERE nails. End of discussion. :)Bea

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